Dateing is something people have done as long as human beans have walked around on this planet. The dateing ritual has changed over time but the basic reason for dateing is the same.
The main purpose of dateing, as we all know, is to find a mate to propagate us with. Bringing our genetic heritage in to new generations is an instinct lying in our genes as a survival of mankind In the early days this maybe was the only reason for dateing. Today, in the most part of the world, we are dateing for a lot more reasons than just to find a mate for propagating.
Dateing is lot more common today just for fun and pleasure.
Here are some reasons.
- To find someone to have uncomplicated and maybe noncommittal sex with is one reason.
- Avoiding loneliness in our older days is another reason.
- The excitement is a third reason.
- And the list goes on and on.
One thing that have not changed when it comes to dateing, is the fact that we are dateing to find people that are like our selves. We are always looking for people that have the same interest, the same kind of humour, and maybe even look like us, when it comes to height and weight.
When we are dateing we also want to appear as the perfect match to our dateing partner. We want to show of our best sides and try to hide our bad sides.
We behave different when we are dateing than we normally do when we are relaxed an in a safe environment.
Some people are even capable to bluff and cheat when they are dateing, in attempt to become the perfect match for the person we are dateing.
When we date there is more or less some kind of 'overselling' involved in the communication and behaves between the involved parts.
Who hasn't experienced to 'wake up' after an intense love affair just to find out that our mate isn't quit the same person as we believed he or she was when we started to date the person.
Isn't that a disappointment feeling?
Many people have even burned themselves so badly when it comes to relationship between two people that they never want to date another person again.
Sometimes time is heeling that feeling and they enter the dateing area ones again, but sometimes that feeling never goes away and the person remains as a single person for the rest of their life.
The worst part of this situation is that the 'burned' person very likely blames him self.
I always pick the wrong person is a common saying from a person with a lot of disappointments in the dateing area.
It is also very sad to see that people, that of many different reason, are inexperienced or have a low self-confidence, when it comes to dateing, that experience this kind of disappointment more likely.
Maybe this happens because they become more desperate, and when people become desperate they are lowing their guards and become less critical when it comes down to evaluate the dateing partner. They are swallowing 'the bait' more easily, so to speak.
If this happens to you, then maybe this is a signal for you to slow down a little bit when it comes to seeking love and romance.
You see love has a way of hitting you when you don't seek it, more likely than when you desperately seeking it.
I know that this is easy to say, especially when it comes from someone already in a relationship, but still there is a kind of truth in it.
If you do not want to slow down your seek after a good partner, you can seek help in a lot of good books, that can help you with your performance, when it comes down to dateing.
My recommendation for good books about the subject is:
'Why men leave' By Dr. Brenda Shoshanna.
'12 Simple Rules - That produce result' By E. Solomon.
'A better way to date' By Michael Webb.
'Be the guy who gets the girl' By Tiffany Taylor.
Another very popular way to perform dateing is through online dateing.
This is a way of dateing where you have more control of the situation before you meet the person, because you can get a lot more information about the person before you even meet him or her.
Oddvar Meyer is the author of http://dateing.oddvarmeyer.com where you can read a lot of the subject dateing.
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